stupid

As soon as i get in the car the first words out are something bad about what i have done what i need to do or anything. then i say back "ok" with a little explanation of what happened and do what u ask. but then my little explanation to u is me being defensive but i wasn't trying to be, its me making excuses: i was just trying to hold a conversation. But now im i am defending myself because everything i say is taken the wrong way by you and i just want you to understand. You don't want to hear it. then you go on and on for a good 30 mins about how i need to think about what i say before i say how i don't have to explain everything how i need to stop thinking im always right and accept when im wrong no explainations needed i understand this its the basis of parenting but i really never said anything to indicate i was right you were wrong and im not going to do what u say but thats how you took it. You just keep going on and on and then when we get home u complain that if i had just said yes we wouldn't be talking about this for so long and i wouldnt be crying but you are the one making it a big deal. once inside i get a drink cuz im thirsty i looked for my water bottle in my backpack but i cant find it so i just grab a juice box really quick. then you have to say you really should drink water instead of juice all the time and i say i was looking for my water but i couldn't find it. then of course u start lecturing again because i was being defensive about my water and i need to not interrupt because you hadnt finished yet and "this shows u i don't give a shit what you have to say" that was uncalled for u didnt have to say that you know very well that i love tslking to you and i have alot of respect for family members and you know thats not how i think at all that took me over the edge i started crying and breathing heavily and all you have to say to me is "stop being so dramatic and making such a big deal about this stop feeling sorry for yourself and im going for a walk to calm down." then you left. i do NOT feel sorry for myself ever in any way i did not make a big deal out of this you did i am not the only person at fault